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Aramus

Aramus
27 posts
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Location:
Winchester, VA
United States
26.07.2011 16:15

Adoption

Greetings and salutations!
I have been wondering what the first step would be towards adopting or fostering a child?
We live in WV but work in Winchester VA.
My wife and I have been married for 3 years now (i'm 30, she is 26) I work full time and go to school part time (will finish in December), she works part time and goes to school part time. I work for Habitat for Humanity and she is a nurse.
It is not possible for me to produce a child naturally and so many conversations as of late have been about adoption.
We have both been in the Big Brothers Big Sisters for the last 5 years and love the impact we have had on the lives of the children we mentor.
Photos of us and our Littles and our lives can be found at www.adamandmysti.com
We would like to adopt from a child in state if possible.


It only takes a few hours each week to make a Big difference in a Little life. Visit www.bbbs.org or send me a message.
http://www.WinchesterReStore.com/
http://www.bbbswinchester.org/
http://www.habitatwfc.org/
http://flamingfish.com/
www.adamandmysti.com

 
Aramus

Aramus
27 posts
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Location:
Winchester, VA
United States
26.07.2011 16:15
Re: Adoption
So does it really all come down to this?
Buy a baby through an "adoption agency" for $20-50k?
Or
Earn a child through the foster/adoption process in the state?

I live in WV and at the moment, I plan on signing up for the foster program.
I am having serious internal arguments over the ethics and morals of ordering a baby much like you order a product from a catalog.
For the right amount ($58k to be exact) I can pick the race, sex and even the state the baby comes from. This bothers me... a lot. I do not want to be "marketed" to potential mothers and I do not want an "adoption law center" hunting down a mother-to-be like she is just another number.

The amount of classes required in WV to be considered for foster care astonish me.
I am impressed, very impressed.
If nothing else, I will come out better knowing how to work with my Little Brothers and the Court Ordered Community Service teens at the ReStore.

This is exciting, but overwhelming. I have a a massive kitchen table (seats 9-12) and it is covered.... covered in papers from different agencies, groups, charities, "adoption centers" and state agencies.
The paperwork from the WV Department of Health and Human Services is on my lap right now... trying to find out when and where the next classes are.
This is going to take a while, a long while... but in the end... I wil have earned the right to help a child, right?


It only takes a few hours each week to make a Big difference in a Little life. Visit www.bbbs.org or send me a message.
http://www.WinchesterReStore.com/
http://www.bbbswinchester.org/
http://www.habitatwfc.org/
http://flamingfish.com/
www.adamandmysti.com

 
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